Eric Bailey's

This is something that I am trying to work on. How I talk to my wife. I have real trouble asking questions. In my mind I have a whole bunch of questions and I try to narrow it down to the first question and move from there, but what it communicates is that I am trying to get my wife to volunteer to do the task. I kind of think that she may be right about that point. Now my focus is on not the first question, but the task I am trying to ask her about. This is hard.

I was on the receiving end of the wrong kind of communication last night. Instead of telling me that things were not working out, the statement was worded in a way that I totally blew it. It hurt.

I think that there are better ways to say things to each other. I think I need to remember this when I try to talk with my wife. Not the hurt, but the idea that we can say things in different ways. It is easy to slip into patterns of hurt without meaning to. I know I need to pay attention to my way of talking or it can easily become snapish, or critical. It is easier after all to find fault in others. This is what inspired my writing this, fault in an other. But the fault I need to focus on is in me. I think I read something like that somewhere (remove the plank from your own eye before trying to help with the speck in anothers eye).